To Bless or Impress?

Imagine a picture perfect dining table for invited guests with a charcuterie board, asparagus prosciutto, angel hair pasta with fresh herbs, roasted rosemary chicken and an excellent chilled tiramisu. Yet, that's not how it usually goes for me. Usually, I hear the annoying question in my head, "Why do I ever invite people over to my home?"

In the midst of feeling overwhelmed physically and emotionally, I also hear the still, quiet voice of the Spirit asking the question: "Are you prepping to bless or impress your company?" Ouch! My ultimate goal is to be a blessing, but this good intention can be shrouded by my desire to impress with external appearances. I was more like Martha who allowed the distractions of housekeeping take precedence over listening to Jesus. (Luke 10:40).

After many years of hosting, I've learned the 5 Biblical strategies to B-L-E-S-S over the holidays and anytime I'm entertaining:

B - Be ready and focused on God's purpose, not mine (Isaiah 55:1)

God's purpose are always deeper than mine. When I have taken the time to pray beforehand for my guests, the Spirit always sets up meaningful conversations and productive interactions.

L - Let go of unrealistic expectations (Philippians 4:11)

An attitude and spirit of internal contentment changes the whole trajectory of entertaining. Releasing the worry of perceptions relaxes our hearts and minds to take in the precious moments of making others feel at ease.

E - Encourage family and friends' participation (Acts 2:46)

The early church modeled the beauty of "all hands on deck". Participation of the old and young, rich and poor, with people of multitudes of culture created a tapestry of belonging and fellowship.

S - Simplify...Simplify...Simplify (Ecclesiastes 9:10)

When your guests leave feeling refreshed and loved, it's is far more rewarding than an extravagant menu or displaying exquisite decor. Simplification is preparing the best you can within reason to cultivate authentic relationships.

S - Season my place with God's Presence (Matthew 5:13)

The salt of hospitality is rooted in being a blessing to your guests. A gracious spirit and genuine concern speaks more Jesus than anything we can do in and of ourselves.

Everything doesn't always fall into place before the arrival of company. Yet, it always works out because it's God purpose that matters most. Use every entertaining moment as an extension of His love and grace to everyone who walks in your space.